Aaron Wolf @wolftune@social.coop

I'd like to hear about examples where someone observes a broad political conflict as a truly complete outsider and notices the patterns of communication dysfunctions…

I'm sure it's similar (but not identical) to a therapist mediating an interpersonal conflict.

I wonder how much people who do have such outsider experiences still fail to map any insights onto political conflicts where they are insiders…

Came across yet another example in the countless list of cases where:

I witness two people I am certain have good faith in engaging on some political topic have a completely dysfunctional interaction online because of accusations of bad faith.

I have no doubt this is vastly more common than actual bad faith (although with billions of people online, the bad-faith examples are still in the millions, unfortunately)

@cwebber how can I follow you but see only the small fraction of your massive quantities of postings that are generally applicable to FLO, politics, or I dunno, remarkable…? Your stream is just such a high quantity of stuff that overloads everything else I might follow…

Perhaps there are hashtags you suggest I follow that you often use?

P.S. https://archive.org/details/snowdrift-dot-coop-intro will be on Snowdrift.coop homepage soon…

A quote from somewhere that I like and have been referencing lately:

“It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking, than think your way into a new way of acting.”

(sorta like fake-it-til-you-make-it with less sense of dishonesty)

@strypey @emi @Matt_Noyes @wu_lee @LeoSammallahti

pinging those who discussed problems with AGF… I think I have the solution!!

(will write in detail later)

drop AGF in CoC, but add "*act* in good faith".

Then, like any other suspicion of CoC violation, if someone suspects bad faith, they must take action from options for addressing violations (discuss separately and/or report, etc)

AGF not as mandate in general but as requirement for continuing to engage directly on a topic publicly…

This pair of podcasts is supremely inspiring:

http://loveandradio.org/2014/02/the-silver-dollar/

http://loveandradio.org/2017/02/how-to-argue/

It's interview (story then discussion) with Daryl Davis, the black American musician who built personal relationships with KKK members and got them to give up their membership and start on the path toward tolerance and understanding.

Deep, deep wisdom here.

(overly-science-focused) intro to significance of social expectations: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/09/07/644530036/watch-can-you-affect-another-persons-behavior-with-your-thoughts

Some lessons from this:

• expecting good will and potential in others is likely to bring that out (and vice versa with lacking such expectations)

• it's worth making *extra* effort to hold positive views and expectations of those you may have biases against — and to push-back against widespread unfair pessimism and prejudice

• [59 more toots-worth of insights possible but I'm out of room here]

I just learned that a friend does not use a clipboard history manager!

Computing without one is much more painful. Get one TODAY.

IMO, in priorities for every computer user, a clipboard history program is second only to using a good privacy/adblocker like @better or #ublockorigin

(FWIW, I use KDE's Klipper, and I've tried Diodon on Gnome, and there's options for any system out there…)

I wish clicking the permalink of a post did the same as "expand status" from the … menu instead of opening the link in a new browser tab. #mastodon