Does the person in your life with or make promises to help or suggest shared activities, but fail to follow through?

Good news: we may just need more communication, prompting, or up-front investment from you! Sadly, we may not know how to ask, or feel uncomfortable asking.

In short: our brains may not schedule activities like typical brains. We are more dependent on environmental cues. Gently asking what we need in order to follow through can make a big difference.

Community dynamics, "meds vs. no meds", conflicts, anti-psychiatry Show more

Community dynamics, "meds vs. no meds", conflicts, anti-psychiatry Show more

Community dynamics, "meds vs. no meds", conflicts, anti-psychiatry Show more

Community dynamics, "meds vs. no meds", conflicts, anti-psychiatry Show more

If you're on Kanopy (available through library systems, not sure about their scope outside of the U.S.), there's several good films about Autistic self-advocacy on there

kanopy.com/product/spectrum-st

kanopy.com/product/neurotypica

kanopy.com/product/wretches-an

kanopy.com/product/autism-love

kanopy.com/product/keep-change

I looked to see if "Off the Rails" is on there; it's not, but is available for streaming rental and on Sundance Now.

offtherailsmovie.com/

#ActuallyAutistic

tfw researching your own brain dysfunction Show more

mh; approaching a well-considered diagnosis Show more

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neural correlates & comorbidities of bipolar Show more

I keep trying to explain the ephemeral genuineness I see happening every day in the fediverse to ppl who would really benefit from being here and benefit the network by being here, and their fixed views about social media are so shaped by the capitalist social currency networks that they literally cannot wrap their mind around something different and end up rejecting Yet Another Social Network out of hand.

(I've definitely posted about this scenario before, but it's just such a stark example of atomization in American culture. These people still consider each other friends, still like each other, and yet interact less than once a month despite living literally less than 30 meters apart. And only ever after Scheduling It. And they think this is normal. What the actual fuck.)

2010s white middle class culture is buying a house literally across the street from a best friend in college who you even lived with abroad, then seeing each other less than once a month (with an associated to-do of Scheduling and Arranging), and when questioned about it, explaining that "we both have kids." (Who also never interact.)

I will never understand these people. And I've lost all desire to try, other than for purely instrumental purposes. I just want to be away from them.

I created a GoFundMe for helping me to buy the computer at gofundme.com/for-buying-a-new-

It's for a Librem 15 version 4 (Only if I get enough funds otherwise, any other ideas are welcomed). Thanks.

#Fedilab

(The real trick is in getting *good* help, but structured behavioral therapy (CBT, DBT etc) is relatively easy for people to provide effectively without decades of experience plus natural talent, compared with more open-ended talk therapy. It's also often very effective without need to dig into the "why" you have a problem.)

The level of resistance to therapy, even goal-directed behavioral therapy, which I see among people from zero knowledge up to people with master's degrees in psych, and even jobs in mental health, is truly amazing.

PSA: if you think your problems are so unique and intractable that therapy couldn't possibly help, you are wrong. People whose entire career it is to help with these issues likely see some version of your problem on a daily basis!

Is resisting help effective to improve your life?

"The of and reacted in wildly different ways to repulsive pictures… Montague could predict with more than 95 percent accuracy whether they were liberal or conservative.

…The degree to which subjects’ views tilted to the right was … in direct proportion to the density of papillae on their tongue. This result may have bearing on a puzzling partisan split in food preferences."
theatlantic.com/magazine/archi

Discussion q for spoonies / ppl with mental or physical health issues Show more

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social.coop is a coop-run corner of the fediverse, a cooperative and transparent approach to operating a social platform. We are currently closed to new memberships while we improve our internal processes and policies, and plan to re-open to new folks when that work is complete. [9/2/2018]