so, i run selfcare.tech but rarely talk about why.
it was on the tail of a med incident. a blood vessel burst in my retina & i had a blind spot in one eye that took over a month of recovery (after a panicked trip to the ER).
it burst because of the *stress* i was under, partly from some life stuff, but mostly because of my work situation.
after that, i started gathering resources & sharing them with others. eventually, i made the website so i could share easily & it went from there. #selfcare
My revolution is entirely boring.
Minimize my participation in systems that hurt
Maximize participation in systems I support
Save resources & money
Gather and practice skills
Buy as local as possible *when possible
Volunteer for community events, political candidates that help humans,
Mutual support of aligned people
Don't own more than I need
Don't desire what is inaccessible to most
Stay realistic by focusing on money and actions instead of words
So boring I can do this daily
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Also, the vast wealth disparities just between the people I know personally, and the truly staggering differences in basic health & safety that follow (in the USA anyway)... that's pretty frustrating.
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There are a lot of frustrating things about all this. Including knowing that disconnection is at the root of a great deal of addiction, yet once addiction is solidly established it promotes more disconnection. There's a very grey area between making sure they know you're available vs jumping in and trying to rescue vs keeping healthy boundaries when they're high on a substance or otherwise behaving poorly.
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A friend's little brother died of opioid OD last night. I haven't actually been able to see my friend since move back here, in part because he's a few towns away and I have few resources, and in part because he is also using and doesn't communicate much when that's the case. In fact I begged for $ on here to get him a new tent when he was sleeping outside a while back. He's indoors now at least and has a job.
> [W]e hypothesize attention to moderate the higher route [in empathy processing]... Further studies even argued that people appear to become “mindblind,” meaning that they fail to mentalize others when they have no sufficient attention resource (Lin et al., 2010).
A Dual Route Model of Empathy: A Neurobiological Prospective. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6243070/
(Critically, attention is something that can be cultivated... or neglected)
Ann's Autism Blog: Autistic People. So, new Research. Different social skills, not broken ones.
Archivists Are Trying to Make Sure a ‘Pirate Bay of Science’ Never Goes Down - VICE https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/pa7jxb/archivists-are-trying-to-make-sure-a-pirate-bay-of-science-never-goes-down
More than once when I've ended up following threads on the web due to some interpersonal conflict, I end up at Non-Violent Communication.
At this point it's happened enough that I really want to learn more about #NVC.
I feel like it's long past time for a radical #leftist organization that represents the interests of the #neurodiverse working class. Capitalism's hierarchy of productivity means that we are inevitably, unavoidably, and directly screwed over, regularly moving from job to job trying to find anything we can do and can bear - if we can even work. Yet our voices are so rarely heard in radical spheres
If you're neurodiverse and interested in organizing something like this, send a reply or DM. It's way too early for me to announce anything, so for now I'm just gauging support. If you're neurotypical, please boost
@Anke Thought I was following you already...
I think this applies to everyone in different ways. Like, the *way* someone with depression or ADHD or fibro or a 1 month old infant will react at each level depends on their brain stuff and circumstances, but that the levels exist is universal.
It's just most able, neurotypical folks don't get higher than level three unless they are facing, like, death of a loved one or serious trauma or someething
How's everyone doing today?
I found a great infographic on birdsite today about how stress levels affect #ActuallyAutistic folks
Here's the infographic: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EKMrd5cUUAEWu6j?format=png&name=large
Here's the thread about it:
I've been working towards something like this for months now, and it's great to find it fully laid out and clearly explained.
I am ecstatic to be back at level 1 (for now!) and able to be fully-functional-for-me
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