@Witchsmeller This instance like, when talking about not wanting to be called cis? I imagine that's because there is a BIG difference in power and experience between being cis and being trans. And, I think people have said "I don't feel cis" while having a cis experience quite a lot, so it's rubbing it in trans people's faces - we "don't feel cis" a LOT more than you, right? We get beaten, murdered, evicted, fired for "not feeling cis", so hearing a cis person say that is very dismissive.
@Witchsmeller It is often used in ignorance, to erase the marginalisation we face in one tiny sentence. So for a lot of us it is a red flag. Even when said innocently, it is insensitive.
@Witchsmeller It's in the same box, perhaps, as "well, we're all a little bit trans, aren't we?" It shows that the speaker has no real awareness of the vast difference of experience.
I have seen people say "I'm not trans, but I have a trans experience." So perhaps you could be like "I don't identify as cis, but I have a cis experience" - how does that feel?
@cassolotl @Witchsmeller FWIW I haven't had that pop up; what people do (most of whom knew me when) is want to talk about something trans-ish that they read, whereas I want to talk about sustainable farming and co-ops and such.
@risabee @Witchsmeller Ha, yes. :D I have that a lot with doctors! I'm like "so I have this problem with my joints..." and they're like "so you're trans, huh? Talk to me about that." Um, nope. :D I would like to just not be notably trans right now.