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Melissa Santos

I tried to give my boss feedback about how she made me sad friday.

so she made me much sadder.

i don't know what I expected.

not only am i working on the wrong things, it's my fault for not magically figuring out what the right things are and prioritizing them.

@ansate Oh, I'm sorry to hear that. I've been there in the past.

Sadly, I have no advice to offer. My situation was resolved by all of us getting laid off. Which, admittedly, did solve the problem, but was a bit more scorched-earth than I desired.

@bmac it was particularly painful coming right after an on-site with my stakeholders where i felt like i was actually valued.

@ansate Avoiding the gaslighting is pretty critical here. Peers help. It seems like sitting around complaining is non-productive, but if you're comparing notes and getting a good baseline, that's time well spent.

@ansate classic, and always just a complete mystery about who was supposed to be helping you figure it out also

@ansate Can I have her number? I need to discuss some things.

Kidding obviously. But I wish I could talk her into not being so bad at this. You're a person, not a psychic robot. 💜

@ansate I'm so sorry. I need to tell my boss more often how much I appreciate her not being like this. It is so easy to take her for granted until I read experiences of others.

@ansate I'm so sorry. I've been in this situation and it is 100% no fun. It's times like these you have to really lean on your friends and find moments of joy.

@ansate Sounds like they're piss poor at empowering people.