It's aromantic spectrum awareness week!

Did you know that the law discriminates against aromantic people?
If two people marry (you know, that thing where they promise somewhat long lasting romantic love to each other) they get a lot of benefits* that e.g. queerplatonic partners often can't get.

*in most countries

I built an active community of trans people online
https://t4t.social
#ycombinator #trans #transgender #queer #mtf #ftm #femme #masc #lesbian #gay #sapphic #enby #demi #ace #aro #pan #poly #queerplatonic #aromantic #asexual #nonbinary #fluid #hetero #intersex #dyke #two_spirit #disabled #neuro #man #woman #fag #monog #androg #androgynous #monogamous #polyamorous #system #therian #stud

It's Ace week!

And I have a request for all allies: Please reflect on the following questions:

Disclaimer 1: I'm probably not going to include everyone with the words I use, but please let me know, so I can edit and learn.

Disclaimer 2: I'm also going to use language that lets you know what I assume is the answer to a former question. But all answers are true and valid. Please don't feel pressured or judged by my words. Some of the questions are simply void depending on your answers before.

1. Do you prioritize your romantic or sexual relationships/constellations/encounters/interests over your friendships?
Do you for example spend more time, money and energy on people who are not or you don't want to be "just friends"? Do you give more love to them? More attention? Would you rather stop everything your doing and travel to the middle of nowhere because one of them wants to see you right now, compared to a friend? Do you think your friends initiate contact more often then you and spend more effort in keeping the friendship going whenever you have people in your life you want to be with romantically or sexually?

2. Do the people you have romantic and/or sexual feelings for deserve the extra attention, time and affection? Do they treat you better than your friends? Is it easier with them or if not, do they give you something your friends can't to make it worth it? Are encounters with them better for you and your (psychological) health than encounters with your friends? Who do you think is more sore or jealous if you spend more time with someone else? Does that mean the other is feeling good about being second best?

3. Do you think society as a whole values romance and sexuality more than platonic love? Do you think that's justified? Do you think that the words we use cement those societal differences (e.g. phrases like "I want >more than< friendship")? Do you know a lot of movies or TV shows where a friendship is the main theme like a romance is in romance movies?

4. Do you think aro/ace people might be lonely and feel left out in such a society (not to say that aro/ace people can't be in romantic or sexual relationships/constellations and that friendship is the only format availible to all aro/ace people)? Do you think some of your friends that are single and not dating (right now) long to spend more (quality) time with you? Do you think some of your friends might like to tag along when your doing something (depending on the activity) with a person or persons in the romance/sex-category? Do you know or think that some of your friends are aro/ace?

5. Have you ever had a platonic crush? Do you know what queerplatonic means? Do you think you could handle it well when a friend has queerplatonic feelings for you that you don't reciprocate? Would it be the same or different than unreciprocated romantic/sexual feelings? Do you think you could be a qpp/bff to an aro/ace person while also being in a romantic/sexual partnership/constellation? Do you think the other person/people in the partnership/constellation would be okay with that? Would you prefer if they were?

I encourage you to look up any words you don't know and/or ask me about them. Many words don't mean the same to everyone and I can only give you my definition. But please don't ask randomized misinformation machines.

Tags for the people

Really great #introduction to the concept of #asexuality and #aromanticism . Very accessible, and a welcome focus on the political aspects of asexuality . And I will forever thank this book for giving me the concept of compulsory sexuality.
️️️️️ for Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex.
#Bookstodon #lgbtqia #queer #queerplatonic #aro #ace #nonfiction
@bookstodon

https://www.goodreads.com/review/show/6018753135

Have you ever been in love with someone who hasn't loved you back?
I bet you have!

But have you ever been, or are you currently in some kind of satisfying (for you) relationship with such a person? Maybe a friendship, a queerplatonic partnership or a polyamorous constellation - or maybe just a business relationship where you spent enough quality time with each other?
Any kind of relationship really, but one where you were truly happy and not constantly craving more.

#poll

I'm interested in stories too.

Someone needs to make tinder except solely for queerplatonic relationships. Find local cuddles near you now.

IMO, an underrated fictional #lesbian romance (between two WOC!) is Delle Seyah Kendry and Aneela on the SYFY series #Killjoys, which blew my mind because it aired during the Bury Your Gays era. Aneela and Kendry both started out as terrible, vicious people who, in part through their love story, gradually learned to aim their anger and ruthlessness in more constructive directions and use their power for good. It was the first queer romance I ever saw that had a redemptive aspect to it, and the women remained powerful and formidable while trying to atone. Several of their lines and exchanges live rent free in my head (warning for spoilers):
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Kendry: “Everything falls, Aneela, from fathers to empires. But we are queens. And queens... rise.”
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Kendry: “Be careful.”
Aneela: “Be BRUTAL.”
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Aneela: “If you want to stay human, I will hold your hands when you turn gray. I will bury you with honor and burn worlds in your name, and you will not be forgotten.”
Kendry: “Or?”
Aneela: “The war is over. And we have a son and an empire. And I need my queen.”
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The show also contained one of the fiercest, strongest #QueerPlatonic relationships I have ever seen, some disaster bis, and an adorable M/M romance, and none of them got buried either! This show buried none of its gays! And it didn’t get canceled before its planned ending, so the story arc is complete!

good morning, friends, and shabbat shalom! today's going to be a good day bc I finally get to see my #queerplatonic partner for the first time in I don't know how long!

my friend group were supposed to have our annual winter gift giving get together sometime in December, but stuff kept getting in the way, but today!!! I get to see her!!!

so! today, I gotta:
-breakfast
-wrap her and her sister's presents
-decide on an outfit
-wash some dishes?
-change my bedding?
-#Splatoon3?

#Introduction

Hi, I’m Mimi! She/they, 21+, #aroace. I’m new to Mastodon and am still trying to figure it out, but in the meantime I’ll tag some of my interests below. Feel free to come say hi; I’d love to make friends!

#KPop #KBands

#AsianDramas
#KDramas #JDramas #BL

#Books
#Reading

#Cooking
#Food
#Tea

#DnD

#LanguageLearning
#Langtoot ( beginner)

#LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Aromantic #Asexual #QPR #Queerplatonic

#Music #MusicProduction

#Plants

#SciFi

#StarWars

#Travel

#introduction


Hey there I’m Ash. (They/Them)


I’m an #RPA developer and branching out into learning other means of #automation as I find it fascinating!

I love hearing about what people are working on and what people are learning so let me know :)

Interests:
#tech #ai #tcgs #videogames #boardgames #selfhosting #opensource #foss

LGBTQ, pride:
#polyamorous #pansexual #agender #queerplatonic