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Gilgwath<p>I noticed how many of the <a href="https://social.tchncs.de/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> people and especially organisations tend to just walk all over my schedule. They are surprised when they show up half an hour too early and it makes me stressed and grumpy. In turn they get stressed and grumpy when I just send them away until it's time for them to show up. Why do we even make an appointment, when they intend to show up when ever. 🤷 <a href="https://social.tchncs.de/tags/adhd" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>adhd</span></a> <a href="https://social.tchncs.de/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autism</span></a></p>
RoundSparrow 🐦<p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Autism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/FWakeAutism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FWakeAutism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/LanguageBigotry" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LanguageBigotry</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Hyperfocus" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Hyperfocus</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Monotropism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Monotropism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/FWakeMonotropism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FWakeMonotropism</span></a> <br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/CommunicationsBigots" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CommunicationsBigots</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/FWakeCassandra" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>FWakeCassandra</span></a> <br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Allistic</span></a> </p><p>“When people are telling the truth, they don’t feel doubted, so they don’t feel the need for additional support in the form of details. When people lie, however, even if what they say sounds credible to you, it doesn’t sound credible to them, so they keep talking.”<br>― Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence</p>
Pete Orrall<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://myside-yourside.net/@StarkRG" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>StarkRG</span></a></span> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span> Not asking the question which needs to be asked.</p><p>A significant reason why <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/workplace" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>workplace</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/interaction" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>interaction</span></a> can be *so* <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/stressful" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>stressful</span></a>.</p>
Kenneth<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://mefi.social/@rabia_elizabeth" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>rabia_elizabeth</span></a></span> <br><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span> In the main, yes. (And none whatsoever for chicken-shit.)</p><p><a href="https://disabled.social/tags/Allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Allistic</span></a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Autism</span></a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/Sociability" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Sociability</span></a> <a href="https://disabled.social/tags/Conversation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Conversation</span></a></p>
Bill Taroli :neurodiversity:<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://neurodifferent.me/@johnnyprofane1" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>johnnyprofane1</span></a></span> I think this is perfect just as it is, and entirely accurate. I consider both <a href="https://federate.social/tags/ABA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ABA</span></a> and <a href="https://federate.social/tags/CBT" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>CBT</span></a> the <a href="https://federate.social/tags/LGBTQ" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQ</span></a> equivalent of <a href="https://federate.social/tags/ConversionTherapy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ConversionTherapy</span></a>. </p><p>If we accept that <a href="https://federate.social/tags/nuerodifference" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>nuerodifference</span></a> involves physiology, then what exactly are we supposed to be fixing? We are not broken. At best we need to learn to cope with <a href="https://federate.social/tags/toxic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>toxic</span></a> indifference of <a href="https://federate.social/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> society.</p><p><a href="https://federate.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://federate.social/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://federate.social/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span></p>
Bill Taroli :neurodiversity:<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://neurodifferent.me/@johnnyprofane1" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>johnnyprofane1</span></a></span> There is so much about the normative <a href="https://federate.social/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> social gauntlet I just don’t get. Sometimes I wonder if this perplexing outcome of expressed <a href="https://federate.social/tags/individuality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>individuality</span></a> and obvious surrender to <a href="https://federate.social/tags/populism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>populism</span></a> is merely a continuation of that same game that happens in our teens, and they just never got over it. </p><p>I suppose I didn’t consider if my confusion over <a href="https://federate.social/tags/political" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>political</span></a> behavior might also be part of my social <a href="https://federate.social/tags/dissonance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>dissonance</span></a>. Very possibly!</p><p><a href="https://federate.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a></p>
Bill Taroli :neurodiversity:<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://hachyderm.io/@lkanies" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>lkanies</span></a></span> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://universeodon.com/@hmm_cook" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>hmm_cook</span></a></span> It may be worth clarifying what we’re motivating our <a href="https://federate.social/tags/neurodifferent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodifferent</span></a> kids FOR?</p><p>We maintain <a href="https://federate.social/tags/routines" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>routines</span></a> for daily living needs… getting ready school, homework, bath and bed time. </p><p>For <a href="https://federate.social/tags/interests" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>interests</span></a>, it’s best to let them self-pilot. We can introduce them to new things and see what sticks. But are <a href="https://federate.social/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> kids so malleable that it works differently for them? If anything, we worked to maintain multiple interests.</p><p><a href="https://federate.social/tags/ParentingWhileAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ParentingWhileAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://federate.social/tags/AutisticParenting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AutisticParenting</span></a> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span></p>
Bill Taroli :neurodiversity:<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://strangeobject.space/@theynege" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>theynege</span></a></span> I would start by responding that no one should have to explain themselves. Why is everyone naturally expected to buy into <a href="https://federate.social/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> expectations?</p><p>I would simply offer that <a href="https://federate.social/tags/neurodifferent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodifferent</span></a> people don’t often just socialize because. We often require some shared connection before we engage with people, partly because this requires a real expenditure of mental energy. And if we’re already drained for other reasons then it’s even less likely to occur. </p><p><a href="https://federate.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://a.gup.pe/u/actuallyautistic" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyautistic</span></a></span></p>
Russell McOrmond 🧠🌈♾ (Old)<p><span class="h-card" translate="no"><a href="https://twit.social/@MisuseCase" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>MisuseCase</span></a></span> </p><p>We might be having an <a href="https://fosstodon.org/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Autistic</span></a> vs <a href="https://fosstodon.org/tags/Allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Allistic</span></a> conversation mismatch.</p><p>I'm not questioning your experience with having an <a href="https://fosstodon.org/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> brain.</p><p>One of the things I've learned about my 55 year old <a href="https://fosstodon.org/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Autistic</span></a> brain is that I am able to think about and analyse systems.</p><p>Is it the "systems" vs "individuals" aspects of the mismatch I'm wanting to explore and understand.</p><p><a href="https://mcormond.blogspot.com/2021/02/my-privileges.html" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">mcormond.blogspot.com/2021/02/</span><span class="invisible">my-privileges.html</span></a></p>
Miakoda<p>Dear <a href="https://pdx.social/tags/Allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Allistic</span></a> people,<br>Why are you so resistant to letting people have alone time? <br><a href="https://pdx.social/tags/AskAllistics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AskAllistics</span></a> </p><p>Yes, I'm actually asking cause I don't get it.</p>
Miakoda<p>I'mma do it!</p><p>Dear <a href="https://pdx.social/tags/Allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Allistic</span></a> people,<br>Why do so many of you want to touch me?<br><a href="https://pdx.social/tags/AskAllistics" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AskAllistics</span></a> </p><p>🤣</p>
&y Haskell<p>I do think likewise though <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> kids should learn abt <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> styles of socializing, so they understand that their style of socializing is one of many rather than the only one.</p><p>That way they understand their autistic classmates' social styles and needs, they can be better allies against ableist <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/bullying" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bullying</span></a>, they learn how to live in a neurodiverse world, and because believe me, <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/neurodiversity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neurodiversity</span></a> creates legendary friend groups!</p><p>So regardless of neurotype, teach your kids abt neurodiversity!</p>
Your Autistic Life<p>I present here an allegory about the autistic and allistic mind, seen as gardens. It can help explain, for some, how people who looked allistic all their life turn out to be autistic.</p><p><a href="https://yourautisticlife.substack.com/p/the-autistic-and-allistic-minds-as?sd=pf" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">yourautisticlife.substack.com/</span><span class="invisible">p/the-autistic-and-allistic-minds-as?sd=pf</span></a></p><p><a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/YourAutisticLife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>YourAutisticLife</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autism</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/garden" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>garden</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/mind" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mind</span></a> <a href="https://universeodon.com/tags/allegory" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allegory</span></a></p>
Shino Me<p>Asking <a href="https://nrw.social/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> about <a href="https://nrw.social/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>autism</span></a> is like asking fish about <a href="https://nrw.social/tags/Birdism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Birdism</span></a>: being scared about breathing under water. Ducks are highfunctioning-birds and hummingbirds low-functioning. </p><p>Because they judge "functioning" by the ability to accept having the head under water. The longer, the more functioning.</p><p>Showing fear of drowning is a symptom, that can be reduced by exposing the bird to water again and again. The best way to (dis)solve the problem, is to "teach" the bird to be under water.</p>
Bill Taroli :neurodiversity:<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://federate.social/@mattblaze" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>mattblaze</span></a></span> But you’re just supposed to acquiesce and do as we say. Then everything will be as it should. Haven’t you grokked the <a href="https://federate.social/tags/ableist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ableist</span></a> agenda yet…? There’s no rationalizing <a href="https://federate.social/tags/allistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>allistic</span></a> <a href="https://federate.social/tags/righteousness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>righteousness</span></a> and <a href="https://federate.social/tags/privilege" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>privilege</span></a>. </p><p>I was in a school district SPED meeting today. The looks on their faces when i remarked, “Staff requires training to understand the harm done by expecting children and parents to mask for their benefit,” truly warmed my heart. 🤣🤣🤣 <a href="https://federate.social/tags/ActuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ActuallyAutistic</span></a></p>
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Bill Taroli :neurodiversity:

@MindfulnessBelle @actuallyautistic 🤣🤣 I just disable the steam of consciousness filter until they get that anxious flight response look. Ah! My work is done here. #ActuallyAutistic

It reminds me of one of my favorite expressions. “If that thing I said scares you, just remember that my filter works.”

Or “Are you REALLY sure you want me to answer that?” Most only make this error once. If they do it again I don’t stop to ask.

I use these as #allistic #training aids. 🤣🤣

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@RaulKrauthausen
Als #actuallyautistic treffe ich regelmäßig auf so etwas.
Sobald das Wort #Autismus fällt, glauben allistische (= nicht-autistisch) Menschen, limitieren, bewerten und formen zu können.

Es kommt nicht mehr darauf an, was wir sagen, sondern nur, dass wir wiederholen, was ein Allist gesagt hat. Egal wie gut unsere Argumente sind.

Ich bezeichne das als #allistic #Bias. Es wird ein Bild geschaffen, das kein Allist erreichen kann und daran werden wir gemessen und bewertet.

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