When I was young and first learned of the
Forming >> Storming >> Norming >> Performing
framework for understanding group development, it really unnerved me because I tended to be super conflict-avoidant, and the idea that conflict was inherent to group formation terrified me.
Lately, though, I've become vaguely impatient with it. "Alright, great, we've met! Now let's figure out what we need to fight about, so we can get to doing the cool stuff."