Even better yet, which I encountered today, is "I do not wish to answer." "Decline to self identify" suggests that maybe you're refusing to fit yourself in the framework. "I do not wish to answer" says that *you* are making a personal choice not to answer the question, insinuating that were it any other way, you could fit yourself into one of the two options.
IMO that's as bad as choosing between "female" or "male," only that now they won't be able to deduce my AGAB until we meet in person.
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