I've realized that a BIG portion of my extreme anxiety & avoidance where I lived for the last 3 years boiled down to the other occupants being unable or unwilling to coordinate use of shared space. I asked for this many times and they would not.

I'm not sure if this is an ADHD thing or just a me thing, but in such conditions I end up getting really strong "task-related anxiety" about doing anything in the shared spaces, and thus often end up doing nothing at all and getting resentful over it.

This is definitely an issue I will need to work on, now that I can articulate it clearly, because it's not really possible to avoid such people in all of life. But it's also an issue I strongly prefer to work around, by trying my best to live with people who are willing / able to verbally coordinate use of shared space or shared resources.

Another example of the "illness" being a combination of trait + environment, rather than just "me having a problem."

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