I found this on resentment to be helpful.

"Holding on to resentment and anger is like holding on to two hot coals and expecting they will burn somebody else."



Something I noticed in the intersect between that Dharma talk and hyperawareness of my own mental states:

In a situation where I have anger / resentment due to social discord, and obsessive rumination about same, those two afflictions seem to fade at different rates. They're not fully coupled.

I'm not sure what to make of this, but it's interesting. Noting a similar decoupling between physical anxiety symptoms vs legit reasons to worry was a fundamental step in learning to cope with anxiety.

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