Sometimes, when friends are struggling, they *can't* ask for help.
Sometimes active engagement is the right thing to do. We need to lift each other up, and to stop letting our culture dissuade us from doing so.
I can't even count how many times in my messed up life when something like this could have had a huge impact. (Right now is one of those times.)
@JigmeDatse Yeah, hmm, I was dialing up to remote information services by 5th grade, and on the actual internet by 7th at the absolute latest, but it was definitely on a DOS machine with an orange screen and no graphics.
I got a hell of a lot of support over the internet from 19yo college kids who didn't know I was 13 or 14 until it was too late and they already liked talking to me. It worked out. It's not for everybody, but online community has long been a big positive for me.
@muninn Hey: Sorry I can't help you hang pictures and stack books, but if you're having a hard time I hope it passes soon. I enjoy the stuff you put out here, I'm looking forward to seeing the blog you're making, and I think it's really impressive to see you sharing your experiences here. I'm learning stuff here that's relevant to me, so thank you.
@cathal It's always positive to hear from people who like what I'm posting! And actually after I posted that I've started tidying up some clutter in my little space - it's a start, since I do have an opportunity to go through my boxes and piles coming up soon.
Engaging like this is beneficial for me, too. Aside from just connecting with people on here, the blog is definitely "employment adjacent."
Thanks for reading :)
/looks at desk, looks away
Yea, tidying.. that's something I could really do with right about now. :) It does really improve my productivity to have a tidy desk, even though a messy desk never actually occludes my keyboard/mouse/monitor. Brains are funny things. :)
And yea, if your pro-adjacent blog would never include thoughts on things like psychedelic therapy and executive dysfunction, I'm glad you're also on Social.coop :)
What's the URL? I got the impression it's under construction?
@cathal No URL yet, mainly because I'm making it with a static site generator, so all the construction takes place on my laptop until I'm satisfied enough with it to start publishing. (Insert pic of that "CSS is awesome" mug, for geeks who are curious what state it's in right now.)
I definitely will not shy away from covering things like psychedelic therapy, ketamine, etc. I'm not at a point where I can try it myself but there is some amazing literature coming out. Did you see my recent post?
@cathal A couple threads. The paper in the first one is a VERY good #longread. I also ended up watching some fascinating videos on YouTube about psychedelic and ketamine therapy, including a talk from the VP at Kaiser Permanente who launched their low-dose ketamine program for depression.
It's quite a hopeful time.
@muninn See, this is how limiting social media is. I want to say, hey, come over, or I'll come over. We can sit on the couch and watch TV and vent. Mayberry's on. I'll make bread. Any fillings you want. There's the recipe I've been eyeing using heavy port wine.
But none of that's gonna happen and it often makes me feel helpless. Because, in the end, you don't know me. I don't even know where you live. And we might hate each other in real life.
But still, Mayberry's on, or it should be.
@StephanLoy Yeah, it can be an uncertain dynamic. And I find that American communities have become so atomized and the people so busy with the rat race, that many people couldn't do this even with friends they DO know irl!
One of my housemate's best friends of many years happened to find a house across the street. They're still good friends. Both have jobs & kids. They often go a month without seeing each other. Something is very wrong with a culture where that's normal IMO.
@StephanLoy Also everybody's comfort with social media is different, I tend to be way more gregarious online than in person, but I grew up online and have been a member of multiple active communities online for over 20 years. Not everybody feels so free to speak up.
Thanks for sharing your perspective. Bread sounds good btw ;)
@shmibs Yeah, I don't have many local ones and most of my online ones are busy or having troubles of their own lately.
I guess I would hope that if we as a society started being more proactive in this way, we'd also be more open with neighbors or strangers, at least enough to get to know they're struggling, and offer a hand. And they would feel more able to accept.
Right now the suffering of people who have no one is mostly invisible.
@amphetamine Yup, due to life chaos and whatever else I have had very little energy to spare for a while, so I completely changed my focus to keeping aware of how my friends and e-acquaintances are doing when possible, then help when and where I can. So 95% of my actions toward people who need a bit of extra kindness are one-on-one these days. @shmibs